Dating a frenchman in america
To which he responded that Americans were careless with the word "love" and used it too frequently.
He also brought up how he was hurt by the way I occasionally thanked servers at restaurants with "Thank you, love," as I would say to a friend who passed me the salt at the dinner table.
This was not appropriate behavior and, according to my husband, it led these men on.
I told him he was being dramatic—a trait that comes easily to French men.
I will try my best to walk slower, to sip my wine as a means to savor it as opposed to getting drunk, and to keep my inside voice at a low level that separates me from the American tourists.
But being a New Yorker isn't something you can easily shake.
Shortly after our wedding, Henri and I were walking along Rue des Martyrs with his teenage daughter from his first marriage.
To gain further insight into the phenomenon that is French romance, and the power women seem to exercise within it, we called author Debra Ollivier for a little heart-to-heart on the subject.
I consistently asked people what they did, and when they listed off hobbies or passions, as opposed to professions, I pressed for details. For a while, I tried to steer clear of asking people what they did for work. just as much as I loved the taco truck guy on the corner of East 2 Avenue who had my order ready the second I walked in every morning.
I forced myself to sit at the dinner table for hours, even if there was no one to talk to anymore, and I stopped telling the pizza delivery guy that I loved him. As New Yorkers, we try to be more international in our behavior.
Even if I was single, I had zero interest in this older man.
I simply loved him the way one loves pizza or a Jimmy Stewart movie.
The whole idea of dating, and the difference between how American women 'date' and how French women 'date,' well, there is no word in the French vocabulary for 'date.'" (Editor's note: This means French women don't go on a series of formalized, audition-esque dates with a man—or several men—in a specific time period.