Dating and male dominance
Figuring out what men find attractive in women is easy. Other women are attracted simply because a guy is a “man in uniform” or a rugged country boy.Men assess attraction visually: we are (generally) attracted to younger women with pretty faces, bigger and shapely boobs, some curves, and thinner and fitter bodies. For women, at a subconscious level (shaped by evolution), power seems to be a display on the guy’s part that he is non-needy, which signals he can provide abundant resources for, and protect, the woman and her offspring. Replace the general term “power” with traits like “independent,” “not a mama’s boy,” “well-educated,” “in control of his life,” “confident” and even the most “strong and independent” of feminists will nod their heads in agreement that they like men like this. This may sound shallow or antiquated from a female perspective, but it really isn’t. Heather Remoff, who wrote about her own research in the book “Sexual Choice: A Woman’s Decision- Why and How Women Choose the Men They Do as Sexual Partners,” agrees that power is the main factor women find attractive in a man. It’s very possible that the “power” I’m writing about is simply a synonym for a man with a lot of testosterone (and low levels of the stress hormone cortisol), since leadership and testosterone seem to go together.In such meet-ups, participants only had a few minutes to assess the short and long-term potential of their speed-dating partners, and to decide whether or not to offer their partners a second date.
According to Remoff, “power” is subjective, and it depends on what an individual woman .What find attractive in guys is an altogether different (and very confusing) matter. In the older parts of the brain, men seem to be attracted to women based purely on visual input, whereas women take visual inputs as indicators of a guy’s power.Do women swoon over physically attractive guys like David Beckham or Chris Hemsworth? Or do they prefer certain personality traits like confidence over looks? For example, masculine faces (signaling strength), muscularity, pretty eyes (think powerful eye contact), a deep voice, charm, and size are all good indicators of power, since these help men achieve it.This focus on power may seem crazy in a modern egalitarian environment where women don’t need “protected” from much of anything, but in the context of hundreds of thousands of years of human evolution, it makes perfect sense.Most of these desires aren’t even consciously considered, since they are seated in older parts of our brains, making the reality of attraction seem even more irrational.
After each speed-date, participants were asked whether or not they wanted to offer their partner a second date, and how desirable they found the person as a romantic partner.