Internet dating too much too soon
Each profile is there to offer you a take it or leave it option. Because sex is such a personal topic to discuss before actually meeting face-to-face, do I write off the men who ask me about it or should I just take their questions with a grain of salt, as I would if they were asking me about my favorite football team? There’s a fine line between underselling yourself and blowing your own trumpet when it comes to dating online. Follow these dos and don’ts gleaned from thousands of couples matched by e Harmony and move from online relationship to the real deal.When trying to spark someone’s interest over email, you’ve got to be fun, engaging and good at creating a rapport, while keeping an element of mystery. Do: be proactive Don’t let that classic British reserve hold you back.Share enough to excite and intrigue your potential match, while leaving them wanting more.Follow this rule of thumb: keep profile answers concise and fun.Hot Doctor is just finishing up med school and has a smile that would charm the knickers off grandma.The other guy, whom I’ve dubbed Sensitive Frat Bro, is a sweet entrepreneur who could just as easily be wearing a toga and chugging a beer on a Phi Kappa Tau recruitment poster.
I don’t usually have a problem discussing my likes and dislikes or my past experiences. But these two guys, who both seem to have their shit together enough, took me by surprise when they ventured into no man’s land before we’d even met in person.
When I’m having a first drink with someone, I want him to be paying attention to what I have to say, not staring off, thinking about how he wants to take me home and tie me to my headboard.
I want to be appreciated and liked for my personality, not for my bedroom habits.
You won’t get anywhere if don’t put yourself out there. Don’t: reveal too much too quickly Nobody wants to trawl through an essay on your life, either in your profile or via those early emails.
If you’re match isn’t interested, they either won’t respond or will send you a polite ‘Thanks, but no thanks.’ You can’t take it too personally – she or he hasn’t met you in the flesh! The key is to be open and friendly while still maintaining a bit of mystery.
When replying to a match via email, use two-to-three-sentence responses.