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During the teenage years, young people are trying to come into their own and often rebel against their parents and other adults, which is why they often chose friends and relationships that their parents disapprove of, including dating older men.I hate when I am working with a teenage girl and she tells me she is dating an older man, usually because I know that this relationship, while to her may be idyllic and dreamy, is more often a disaster waiting to happen on so many levels.The thing is, teenager girls often don’t realize just how unequal the relationship with an older man usually is.Usually the older man has more power simply from the fact that he is older, and they usually have more money and resources than the teenager or her friends.A lucky few end up in marriage, which is often proceeded by a child and continues with multiple children, poverty, physical and substance abuse. Let him know that if he really cares about her, he will abide by your wishes since you only have her best interest in mind and he should too if he cares about her.Depending on the age of your daughter and the age of the man, it may be appropriate to get law enforcement involved.Most of the teenage girls I work with who are dating older men are seeking something they feel like they aren’t getting from home, and while it may seem impossible to please your ever changing and complex teenager, try to talk with her, listen to and understand her.
Also, older men are considered more mature and experienced in all aspects of life which is attractive to a young girl, especially one looking to escape her life.
This takes her out of being equal, especially when it comes to making decisions, and because he is older, she will often get dictated to and assume that he is right or knows best.
Also, because he will typically have more money than her and her peers, it will be easy for him to impress her by doing simple things such as taking her to the movies, a fastfood restaurant, picking her up from school or buying her a t-shirt or shoes.
I told her that had to say something about his motives, personality, etc., but of course she didn’t see this as a red flag, but was instead flattered that someone who could date anyone his age or older, chose to date her.
After several months of bliss and sex, he started treating her badly and her moods were very erratic, varied by however they were doing at the moment.
If they were good, she was happy, going to class, doing good.